Category: EN
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Responsibility vs World Peace
How Responsibility Prevents World Peace Why we get what we really, really want—and then blame other people for it Invest 20 minutes to understand the story of your life. And to build world peace. Responsibility is a good thing, isn’t it? At least, that always seemed so obvious to me that I never thought about…
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Stray Cats are Heroes (Stray Cat Model 4)
The first few parts of the series (Caution: Cat – Do Not Feed (Stray Cat Model 1), How to tell if you’re feeding them (Stray Cat Model 2), The 10 Superpowers for Connections Without Losing Yourself (Stray Cat Model 3)) were written from the perspective of dealing with “Stray Cats”. That might have given the…
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Why Marriage is a Scam
That shatters the “happily ever after” romance of our childhood. But that little sentence is a lie. We wanted “emotional safety” as a permanent state. As an instant solution. We sign a contract, and then the matter is settled. But there’s nothing right about that, because we end up achieving the exact opposite. For all…
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Smart systems are relaxed
Actually, the question was “What is love?” or “How can I tell if I’m truly capable of loving (unconditionally)?” And a) off the top of my head, it’s often not easy to explain (it’s more of a feeling), and b) in the business world, we still don’t like to talk about love. What exactly are…
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3x Diamond
The “diamond” model actually predates the “Hamster wheel”; in other words, they are simply variations of the same concept. All models are wrong. Some are useful. The original version of the diamond model or hamster wheel was meant to be nothing more than a metaphor for our inner world—to explain our potential, our inner pain,…
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Feudalism, Power, and Violence
To understand organizations and society today—especially the current problems—we must understand feudalism. Now you’re probably thinking, “What about feudalism? That hasn’t existed for ages.” And that’s true. The systems have changed, but the ways of thinking have remained the same. Much of what we consider to be “laws of nature” are simply habits. Things we’ve…
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Comfort Zone 2.0
(It’s best to read this in the context of Two perspectives on the world—and little overlap or Feudalism, Power, and Violence, because those works contain the relevant perspectives.) Even though the scientific basis is limited, most of us can relate to the comfort zone model. There are various versions circulating online and in the literature;…
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“Patriarchy is good”
Your first reaction reveals whether or not you yourself follow patriarchal thinking patterns. Let’s take a look at what patriarchy actually means, where it’s appropriate, and where it doesn’t belong. Were you on the defensive or in a defensive stance? Was your first reaction to oppose it? Well, then you yourself are in protection mode,…
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Two perspectives on the world—and little overlap
Two Ways of Seeing the World – and How Collaboration Works (A sort of sequel to So what is man really like? Good or evil?) When we observe how people interact with one another—in families, schools, workplaces, or even churches—a pattern emerges: people often act as if there were two fundamentally different kinds of worlds.…
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Defensiveness – simply childish
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The Oak Within Us – Why We Defend Ourselves and How True Openness Emerges There are moments in life when we realize: we’re overreacting. Someone criticizes us—and it feels like an attack. Someone disagrees—and we immediately want to argue. Someone looks skeptical—and a monologue of self-justification begins inside us. Objectively speaking, nothing dramatic has happened.…