Category: EN
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Basics of Trust (1): Trust Is Not What We Think
We talk about trust a lot. In organizations, in leadership conversations, in relationships. Often exactly in the moments when something already feels off. Everyone agrees that trust is important, everyone claims to value it — and still, it keeps breaking in places where no one expected it. That’s usually the first hint that we don’t…
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No More Meetings
Meetings are not the problem I’ve been thinking about meetings for a long time. Not because I enjoy thinking about them, but because they keep getting in the way. And the longer I watch organizations, the clearer one thing becomes: meetings are rarely the problem people think they are. They’re a symptom. Here’s the core…
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We are Complex Systems Anyway — Now Look at the Implications
We Pretend the World Is Simple — and Then Punish People for Its Complexity Most of our everyday systems are built on an unspoken agreement: that humans, teams, and organizations are complicated, perhaps — but ultimately manageable through the right rules, incentives, and structures. Complexity is acknowledged rhetorically and ignored architecturally. This is not a…
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Collective Intelligence or Collective Stupidity?
Why organizations don’t fail because of people – but because of systems The Familiar Belief Most organizations are built on a simple assumption: if we hire capable people and put them in the right positions, performance will follow. Leadership teams are experienced. Experts are highly trained. Decisions are prepared carefully, supported by analysis and framed…
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What The Double-Slit Experiment Teaches Us About The Potatoe Field
The Slit, the Field, and Why Control Makes Us Blind Imagine a wall. In that wall, there is a narrow slit.Behind it, a large surface where you can see where things land. You take an electron gun — or, easier to imagine, a kind of tennis-ball cannon — and shoot particles at the wall. What…
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“I’m outta here” – The Psychology of Ghosting
Before I begin, one thing is important: “I love you!” When we talk about ghosting, avoidance, disappearing, alienation, and pain, it’s about seeing, hearing, and understanding. But not judging or devaluing. Everything we do tells our story. It reveals more about us than we realize. And this is your story, or the story someone told…
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Baby-Elephant
What can we learn from baby elephants? “Often that lies became our truth.” Some time ago, I described an image to a friend. “Imagine you are a seedling of an oak tree. The acorn has opened and now there are two little leaves outside. And no matter who comes and steps on you or nibbles…
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Understanding Relationship-Types
Why are we talking about relationships? Because we need to understand why we are together, next to each other, lonely or lost. We can learn something about ourselves from our relationship types. They show our inner state. They are the simplest magical mirror that shows us our soul. And a mirror never evaluates or judges.…
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Chocolate Cookie
The Chocolate Cookie (Learning to Love) Everyone wants a chocolate cookie. But 98 % of people had their mouths sewn shut.A long time ago. Still, they want to eat cookies — but they don’t even remember how. So they pretend.They talk about cookies, look at pictures in cookbooks and on TikTok, follow their favorite bakery…
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The House of the Three
🌈 Gecko, Limbi, Klaro and Klara 🩵 The House of the Three Three friends lived in a large, colorful head house: Gecko, Limbi and Klara. Gecko was quick and alert. If anything rustled, he was there immediately. “Careful!” he then shouted. “I’ll look out for us!” Limbi was soft and warm. He loved closeness, laughter…